Why women have affairs?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on since old ages. Extramarital relationships can be burdened with evils, cause sorrow, and other problems. In addition you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, funds, age dissimilarity, religious education, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating wives.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are man seeking woman for affair. I am sure mostly though it is just the human state, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people can turn the craving on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against married dating. For lots of individuals the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your spouse or anybody else? You will need to lessen the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest grouping, gigantic in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are comfortable in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to consider. Your savings are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair sometimes solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sadly this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, as a rule the gentleman is sexually neglecting his wife for a multitude of reasons. As a man I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is disappeared, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed distantly, our relulas interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.